50 Rules to Being a Gentleman
King-Mag has just post up their feature entitled, “50 Rules to Being a Gentlemen.” The magazine, mostly known for their bikini-clad cover models, finally gets hip to the Gentlemen Movement. I’m glad too because it’s been a long time coming since Fonzworth Bentley got mocked for holding Puffy’s umbrella. Bentley, Andre Benjamin, and everyone else who held self-improvement to a high regard, are all responsible for ushering in this wave of chivalry. Is it a shame that King-Mag, a magazine that saw it fit to feature Karrine Steffans a.k.a. Superhead in its past pages, has decided to give gentlemen some shine only AFTER Neyo decided it was the Year of the Gentlemen? No, not entirely. It always helps to review the rules of gentlemenship, even if it’s from a semi-misogynistic publication. Don’t judge a magazine by its cover. This cover just happens to highly resemble Playboy.
Anyways, here are my favorite 10 of the 50 rules to being a gentlemen…
49. “If you buy one pair of shoes and one suit per year, you’ll have a nice collection soon enough. It’s an investment. Also, know your measurements and sizes, because you might find a woman who wants to hook you up and get a suit made.”—Chris Mathis, 36, barber
42. “The world is bigger than your hood and the places your favorite rappers represent. Try to travel to a place where your cell phone won’t work. That’s when you know you’ve actually gone somewhere. If you can’t afford to put your passport on pivot, try reading a book or travel guide about the place you’d like to visit.”—A. Samuel
35. “There will come a time when you outgrow the dudes you grew up with. Have a beer with them once in a while, but it’s OK to move on and be friendly with new people.”—Adam Matthews, 36, journalist
34. Go easy on the slang, especially among those who are already judging you based on race and age.
This one’s terrible for me because my language is slang-copious. It’s one of the few ways I feel like I’m not blending in with the scenery.
27. Don’t talk down to coworkers, including subordinates. You may be above them in rank, but as a human being, you’re on a level playing field.
26. “Look for the people who will make your job easier. You can’t do everything yourself, so you’re going to need help. These people will be pivotal to your success. And always thank them and show your appreciation when they come through for you.”—Claveria “JoJo” Gumersindo, 36, quality management
No man’s an island
24. Don’t think because someone has money, he’s a good businessman; there are people with no money who are better.
True that! There’s that slang again.
23. “You don’t want to do anything and everything just for a buck. I’ve walked away from deals a number of times that I think were good deals, but I didn’t think they were good people.”—Grant Hill, 35, Phoenix Suns small forward
22. Learn more about food and where to eat it cheaply. Most cities have great ethnic food; you just have to go to a specific neighborhood to get it.
9. If the opportunity presents itself on the first night, don’t pull a condom out of your wallet. She’ll get the impression that you’re premeditated and will be turned off.
Sex-on-a-first-date etiquette is virtually non-existent
[See the rest of the rules at King-Mag]